Some Wise Assumptions

I was very happy that the author touched on the things that confrontation can change. The section entitled: "a 'residue' that changes things" points out that "it takes two people to cooperate, but only one person is usually required to make a mess of a relationship". Things are often said and or done in the heat of the moment that would not be otherwise. I'm sure we have all said something in the heat of an argument that left us feeling not only horrible, but also knowing that we did not mean it at all. He gives the example of physical arguments; when caught up in the moment physical attacks seem warranted but they end up leaving scars that are irrevocable unlike the initial conflict. I thought about this like a relationship. A relationship cannot withstand differing opinions without both sides commitment to produce a resolution, but it definitely only takes one person to make a relationship end, or to force it to that point. Usually this end warrants some kind of fight that ends in unintended hurtful exchanges. After such things are said, regardless of the validity, it is impossible to forget. These things are always remembered and even if the couple can reconcile their feelings, the hurtful words are always kept in the back of your mind. This in turn leads to the ultimate demise of a relationship, or at least a failing one.Once words are exchanged it is impossible to take them back or right the wrong.