I am reading the book Global Women: Nannies, Maids, and Sex Workers in the New Economy. The first section of my book talks about nannies and about love being a resource, to be more accurate, an unfairly distributed resource. Love has become something that is extracted from one place in order to be enjoyed somewhere else. Women from all over the globe leave their families in order to be a care taker in another part of the world. These women do this in order to better provide for their families at home. However when they leave their families to attend to other families they are often times leaving their own children who consequently end up being raised by family members or neighbors. This book outlines the harsh cycle that occurs in the United States due to this import of care. Nannies come from various other countries to care for American children while the American parents go to work full time. These women from other countries leave their own families in order to provide for them, in turn they take care of the families we leave in order to care for. It is a never ending cycle and is rapidly increasing as time continues.
The United Nations Declaration on the Rights of the Child states that all children have the right to an atmosphere of happiness, love, and understanding. The book makes the claim that the more we love and are loved, the more deeply we can love. For this reason love is not a fixed resource, but rather a renewable resource. However these foreign nannies cannot return to their own families at the end of a long day so they are forced to love from a distance and in different ways. Consequently these nannies love the children they care for so much because they are tunneling the love for their own children towards them. The more they love and attach themselves to these new children, the less they can love their own children at home; in this sense love seems fixed. The book decides love is instead a “distributable resource”. You cannot withdraw or invest feeling, so therefore it is instead redirected. These nannies redirect their love to the children they care for because they cannot love their own children the way they want to. The book recounts stories from nannies that are in this situation and have traveled to America in order to work in order to provide for a family back home.
The book also outlines stories from children of these migrant workers. Some children feel that what their mothers are doing is a great sacrifice, and this in turn drives them to do better in school and attend universities in order to in a way repay their mothers sacrifices. Many children admitted that the monetary support their mothers provided have made their lives easier. These children still admitted the sadness of not having their mothers present in their daily life. Other children interviewed held resentment towards their mother’s after they leave. These children tend to fall behind in school, and almost none attended universities. These children admitted feelings of abandonment and neglect, even when left in others capable care.
The book summarizes this thought pretty accurately by saying “one cannot simply assume that the care leaving disadvantaged nations is surplus care. What is a solution for rich nations creates a problem in poor nations.”
I have seen the transfer of care in the form of a resource in my own life. I have visited Guatemala twice on a mission’s trip with my church. We stay and work at a children’s home. On this property there are four separate houses that house the children who can best be thought of orphans who live at the home. These houses are split up by gender and age; a young boys house, an older boys house, a young girls house, and an older girls house. Some of these children are not actually orphans, meaning they have live parents, but in every other sense of the word they are, either their parents couldn’t take care of them, or they were in danger. The difference between the children’s home and an orphanage is that these children cannot be adopted; they live in this place until they are old enough to support themselves. Many of the children come to this home young and therefore spend their entire childhoods here. At this home there are four house moms, who each live in one of the four perspective houses with the kids. Some of these moms live there full time, while others leave at night. The two that stay with the younger children live there fulltime. The two moms that live in the older children’s house leave at night to go back to their own families. One of the houses moms that lives there full time has grown children. In her case she needed a place to redirect her love, she loves these children like her own because her real children do not need this kind of love anymore. The house moms who work at the home during the day are leaving their children at home in order to go to work to provide a better life for them. They distribute their love and care to these children and spend all day long with them, making all their meals, and handling all their activities, leaving only while they are sleeping; instead of spending this time with their own children. This is all due to the vicious cycle of having to be away from your child in order to provide a better life for them.